When someone walks on both sides of the road, like I do, you have the capacity to be attracted to both men and women. For this reason, though it may not be possible to choose to fall in love with someone of the same sex, it is possible to choose, however hard, to be in a homosexual relationship. And lots of people see this as CHOOSING to be gay. But I am not gay, I'm pansexual. Being in a relationship with a woman doesn't make me a gay anymore than dating a man makes me straight.
People like me, the bi-pan-queer crowd, tend to get pounded by both Kinsey 6's and 0's, being told to "just pick a side". It was pointed out to me that my existence as someone who is attracted to both "debunks" the theory that people are born gay, that people can't choose. Because if someone can be attracted to both, then they should just choose to conform to society and be "straight".
So the question right now is: do I attempt to shirk my attraction to women and be "straight" or do I shirk my attraction to men and be "gay"? Or do I find other bi-pan-queer people and rock my duality?