I am a cisgender female, which means that I am a female by sex and I identify as a female. In short, I'm a girl. I prefer female pronouns, like her and she, and I like to look like a girl. But I don't have a very elaborate or fancy wardrobe. I am also not a girly-girl. I'm allergic to make-up and hair styling products and even if I wasn't, I think there are better things to do with my time, like read. But lately I have been afraid that I have been coming across as boy'ish, or dykie.
I wear boots and jeans and old thrift store sweaters. My hair is almost always in a braid or ponytail, and stuffed under a hat of some kind. I was told the other day that I come off as the dominant one in a relationship.
I don't want to be the dominant one, I want there to be a trade off between me and my girl, or boy. I don't want to come off as a dyke... I want to be seen as femme, maybe blue jean femme at the least. But how do I do that? Should I invest in better clothes? Should I find make-up that I am not allergic to?
But what about my already stretched budget?
Money sucks. And so does figuring yourself out...that sucks too :(
Oh well! What can I do to figure out how to make my outsides look the way my insides feel?