Hey there fellow readers, friends, and goofballs! My name is Nathan and I have the wonderful honor of being a guest contributor on this lovely blog.
A little bit about me first. I am 20 years old, Mormon, and yes I have the honor of being gay. Don't let my wording trip you up. You might be asking yourself, "Did he just call being gay an honor?" and to answer your question I say "Yes. Being gay is an HONOR everyone!"
Growing up in the crazy and beautiful Mormon religion made my growing up gay a crazy and unique experience; but over time I realized that religion doesn't define me it is a part of me, just like the fact that I am gay. There is more to our lives than just being labeled and sorted.
Before coming out I used to constantly have thoughts of 'the world will end when I come out' 'my parents will never love me' etc etc etc. These thoughts were poisonous garbage and I am quite glad to be rid of them today. What really happens when you come out is this; love.
The people that you truly need in your life will accept and love you no matter what you are because of who you are. I found that my friends and close family became closer; they knew the truth and they in turn made this into a much stronger and powerful bond.
So today we need to realize that sexuality is a PART of us; it will never define us. Now I am extremely proud of who I am and I realize that at the end of the day you need to be happy with yourself; if the rest of the world has a problem with it well it's their problem, not yours. Don't let other people EVER get you down or tell you that you are less than you know you are.
I am a wonderful, fun, caring, creative, talented, unique person and this wouldn't be any different wether or not I was gay or straight. If you are gay reading this than be proud to be gay. If you are straight reading this than be proud of that too. To be gay is to be unique; we get to live a life that most of the world will never know so we need to enjoy this gift that we have been given, a different look on life.
While your outlook on life might not be great right now just know that, and yes you have heard this a thousand times, it gets better! And it really is true. Coming out to a friend, family member, each time has made my life better. And while I do attend a school where I unfortunately am unable to be myself and love who I choose, I realize that the future is far off and yet near and it will get even better then. Every year I am so happy because I get to celebrate the anniversary of the day that I came out to my parents; I celebrated my 2nd anniversary this past march and I bought myself a PS3 to celebrate! That's right I celebrate my freedom, my life, and my pride in who I am.
The past is history, the future a mystery, but today is a gift, that is why it is called the present.
Love yourself no matter what because you need to be your closest friend at the end of the day.