Thursday, May 24, 2012

You First

You are the most important person in the world.*
Yes, you.
You don't need anyone else's approval or consent to be who you are.
You are amazing
Right now.
You don't need to wait for the job
or the relationship
or the location.
You are perfect

You best know your answers.
You are the master on you.
Nobody else has authority to tell you what you need
or how you should be living or loving
or what you should be doing
or thinking
or believing.
You are the only you there is
And you know what you need.

Sometimes it's hard to tell
with all the voices
and opinions
and emotions
flying around...
But it's okay.
It's okay not to know.
There is beauty in not knowing.
There is so much to be discovered
in the questions that you ask.

They may not approve.
They may scoff and laugh and get angry.
They may call you selfish
But follow your heart anyway.
Live for you
and nobody else.
Because it is in learning to love you for you
in seeing that you are beautiful
and in falling into deep, passionate love with yourself
that you are more able to love everything
and everyone else.
But you first.

You first.

"I beg you, to have patience with everything unresolved in your heart and to try to love the questions themselves as if they were locked rooms or books written in a very foreign language. Don't search for the answers, which could not be given to you now, because you would not be able to live them. And the point is to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps then, someday far in the future, you will gradually, without even noticing it, live your way into the answer."
                        - Rainer Maria Rilke

* Thank you, B1, for reminding me.  I sure love you.


  1. Oh oh! Have you read that book? Chris Crutcher is pretty cool.

    1. Deadline. It's a book by Chris Crutcher. The cover is the picture at the beginning.

  2. What a great post!
    I told you I had a very important message for you, didn't I? ;)

    This is a good reminder to me.
    It's not about the job or the location or anything else.
    Being here is so much
    and everything seems to need us in this fleeting world
    us, the most fleeting

  3. um. I still love this post. thought I'd just say it again. Because it's really good.