Thursday, October 18, 2012

Relationships are Hard

I've been doing this life thing for a fair number of  years now, and I think I'm just now realizing that relationships are hard.

It's hard learning to live next to someone while still maintaining myself.
It's also really hard learning how to physically live with someone--we see every side of each other, including the little habits of leaving piles of things all around the house (my habit, not hers).
Communication is hard. How do I say, "Hey, I need some space from you right now" to the lady you absolutely adore and would love to be with every minute of the day--almost? How do you make sure that what you're saying is being understood in the way that you meant it? How do you make sure you understand what you're being told in the way the other person meant it?

Communication, I've always believed, is the solution to every problem. The ironic thing is that it often also creates problems, and not just in the lack thereof.

It's hard maintaining a friendship with someone who is hundreds or even thousands of miles away.
It's even harder trying to do so via email or facebook.
And what complicates old frienships even more, for me, is losing common ground.
As my old religion has slipped out of my life, it's been harder and harder to keep up with friends.

Relationships take work. A lot of work.
I'll admit there are times when I don't feel up to it.
But, relationships, as hard as they are, are the most fulfilling of all the things of life.
There's nothing better than laughing at a joke after reconciling a few differences.
There's nothing better than an "I love you" hug after a cry session.
And really, there's nothing better than going to bed each night and waking up each morning next to the most beautiful woman and knowing, as tough as things can be sometimes, she absolutely loves you.

~live your own truth~


  1. Don't you ever forget how much you love me - even if I do live 1,500 miles away now!!! Also, I love you.

  2. I love this post. Thank you so much for capturing the dreary side, but even brighter side, of relationships!

  3. Sums up my own thoughts perfectly, beautiful girl. I suck at communicating; relationships help, even though they're hard. Thank you thank you, and love you.